The Dating Thread

[Visions of Khas]

I will concede that it's possible that the tables are shifted the deeper the relationship goes (since women are more interchangeable than men to the opposite sex)

I'd challenge that point. Statistically, women are more likely to terminate a long-term relationship than men are, though the proposed reasons tend to vary. Reasons could include investments the woman has benefited from; infidelity; stagnation; lower cost to women in divorce proceedings (keeping the money, kids), etc.

Dresses? What? What does that have to do with anything? "Dressing well" is dressing in a way that presents yourself well, and can include going all out on makeup and nails.

You were talking about how women have to put a greater deal of work into appearances, putting them at a disadvantage. I replied by using "dresses" and fashion as an example in my counter-argument.

The real point of my previous post was this: You don't have to cater to social standards or an individual. Take pride in yourself. You have more power and control than you think. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, social convention be damned.

EDIT

I was reflecting on a past romance when I realized something about the Nice Guy/Nice Girl anathema: I think it's just plain easier to reject and cut ties with somebody who acts like a douchebag or douchebaguette. If that person is being genuinely kind and nice, it can make things much "messier" when one party or the other decides to split.

I also think it's time to split this discussion thread out of What Are You Reading.

[TheEconomist]

I'd challenge that point. Statistically, women are more likely to terminate a long-term relationship than men are, though the proposed reasons tend to vary. Reasons could include investments the woman has benefited from; infidelity; stagnation; lower cost to women in divorce proceedings (keeping the money, kids), etc.

I agree, you're probably right, just trying to be open-minded to Nissa argument. My general opinion is that anything related to relationships is in women's favor.

I also think it's time to split this discussion thread out of What Are You Reading.

I was thinking of asking sandwich to make a 'Dating' topic, since this is definitely off-topic now. Originally, the jist was 'I've been reading bullshit Tinder messages' as a one-off statement but now it's more.

Also, again, yeah, like Khas said, you should definitely try online dating. I don't care how ugly, awkward, or whatever you think you are, there's some dude ready to shower you with whatever he can give you to make you happy.... fo' dat assssss

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[Gradius]

Made new thread.

[sandwich_bird]

All I was really saying that the cultural ability to ask someone out without being labeled (or actually being) a lesser person is a powerful, powerful thing. Given that women really want relationships, if you ask enough, you will find someone.

Yes, but we already established that women also have that ability AND have better chances of getting a yes so the argument doesn't stand at all. I decided to search for those studies that show this. Couldn't find the ones published in big journals but these 2 below are honestly just as valid since tbh, psychologists have poor scientific vigor anyways:

https://theblog.okcupid.com/a-womans...e-82d5074dde2d

http://www.multivu.com/players/Engli...merica-study/?

Of note:

Single men are overwhelmingly in favor of women initiating the first kiss (95%), as well as initiating sex for the first time (93%). The vast majority of men are also pleased if a woman asks for a man’s phone number (95%), and is the first to call after a good first date (94%). Yet few women initiate the first kiss (29%); few initiate sex for the first time (23%); and few ask a guy for his phone number (13%).

women are 2.5x more likely to get a response than men if they initiate. If you’re a woman who sends the first message, not only are you more likely to get more responses in general, but you’ll be having conversations with more attractive guys.

[Visions of Khas]

I'd like to throw in two of my favorite articles on the subject of dating and relationships. Not scientific, more opinion pieces.

This is how we date now. On how people are now products, and how it's a shameful reality. It posits that the Paradox of Choice is a major factor in the current state of relationship affairs.

Love is not enough. Love is strong, but you need so much more than that.

[TheEconomist]

On women initiating first, I don't really have a problem with it, except for the fact that almost no women have any game at all. Even on the YouTube Video 'girls pickup guys' they're game is weaker than the average semi-jock in high school.

Also, that intro to the Love is Not Enough article is one the best examples of editorials I have ever seen, finally a editorial that 'get's it'

[Gradius]

Girl game is very subtle. Usually if there's an awkward silence and instead of leaving they say something generic and boring like "so...what do you do?" you can pretty much assume it's on.

They're just not allowed to show overt interest. They've been trained their whole lives to never seem overeager/slutty from all the way back to childhood, pressured by everyone from parents to friends. Their place on the social ladder is pretty much the most important thing to them.

[TheEconomist]

Girl game is very subtle.

Their cues are subtle, but game is game, and game is the ability to start a conversation out of no where and make it interesting and do it all calmly oozing swag and confidence like pheromones. Never seen a female do it right. Girls have no game, but they are much better at subtle communication and body language. There's a reason there's no good female stand-up comedians but psychology is over eighty-five percent women.

[Gradius]

Makes sense. They're slut shamed from birth and since they get approached on the reg there's no reason to have good game if you're a girl. :\

[TheEconomist]

Right, so why the fuck ruin the illusion by approaching me. Just give me the green light and I'll fly through her barricades.




-- So, I'm texting this girl right now, and I am quickly being reminded about the worst part of early, shallow 'dating' with women.

The fucking mind games...

Jesus fucking Christ, if you think men mess with women's heads, I wish women could see the mental gymnastics and head games men have to go through just to get on a solid footing. Oh, sure it's one thing to say you want a guy to treat you right, but that just means he lost the game he didn't know he was playing. The fucking Machiavellian maneuvering and GoT-esque backstabbing already becoming evident, and it's only about to be the second date. At least when I man wants to come for my shit, I can see the fists coming, women got this invisible darts they shoot in you and try to poison your mind.

Won't work ho, I could cut this bitch right now and give less fucks than if I lost a 1v1 match in SC2 against a shit talker

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And to this other girl I just dropped off home, I don't care about the other dudes, I'm all for no commitments, but it shouldn't look like a damn football team when I drop you off back at your house, lol, that's just openly disrespectful. I would worry about diseases but her baby is 2 months old, so she's been tested. Now, just make sure I don't cause her third baby, because I'd have to abort it for its own sake.

... but dat ass do

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Yeah, I'll be honest, I'm getting closer and closer back to the gutter I came from in Miami, and that's dangerous af, was on a trajectory in New York to marry a classy chick ... but it's so fun collapsing everything down




Starting to get fatigued though, I haven't watched a single TV show, played a single game, or done a single thing not related to getting pussy or barely maintaining my business with minimal effort, in many weeks. It's start to drain me, I'll be needing a break very, very soon.


"Getting so much pussy I can't sleep" - Lloyd Banks