So, I tried out Tinder a while ago so I guess I've been reading bullshit. Worked decently for the most part (although the average Tinder girl is fucking dumb) but I had this one strange conversation that went something like this:
[lots of texting with obvious sexual tension and chemistry]
Girl: You aren't Republican, are you?
Me: No, I'm libertarian.
Girl: Where do you stand on [insert bullshit issues]
Me: Libertarians are socially liberally, economically conservative.
Girl: So you're right-wing?
Me: Only on Economics, but I'm not really rig--
Girl: I can't date someone right-wing.
Me: You see, I'm an Economist so my opinion is informed by--
Girl: I don't care. Bye.
Me: ... Bitch, you have three kids, you're 24, with no skills, and divorced. You can't be picky.
I'm not a dick though so I didn't say the last thing, of course.
Also, while I'm on this bullshit subject, most of the other Tinder conversations basically went like this:
Girl: You're not looking for sex/an asshole/rapist/abuser/etc
Me: No, I'm a nice guy.
Girl: Ewwww, I don't like nice guys.
Me: Bitch, I'll fuck you in the ass right now and I won't even ask you permission.
Girl: All guys are the same! Asshole! ... But I want to talk to you more now [insert flirty emoji of choice]
Me: If I promise to cry and snuggle afterwards, can I get up in them guts?
Girl: Okay, but we have to talk about my kids first and how bad their daddy is and how much not like him you are.
Oh well, back to picking up chicks walking around campus (but far from the Humanities building). Damn, I miss when intelligent, put-together women were around me constantly. Why did I waste time actually studying?
06-30-2017, 05:46 AM
Visions of Khas
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Damn, I miss when intelligent, put-together women were around me constantly.
Let me know when you find their nesting ground. ;_;
06-30-2017, 08:11 AM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
Respectable women aren't grown. They are made. They have to experience the real-world which will not be as nice to them as every dude before that's wanted to fuck them. It wll batter them into an actual human being. There's a massive difference (on Tinder) between 21-24 year old girls and 26-29. So, disregard their existence until closer to 30.
That being said, I've realized I should be more selective. She may seem above average, but if she doesn't have some kind of college degree, dat bitch is dumb. I always thought I was above just chasing ass, but, looking back at the girls I messaged, maybe not, haha.
Usual bitter jokes aside, Tinder seems pretty easy. It's not bad for what it is. I'm old school though. I like face-to-face first encounters. Plus, I may be too old still be doing this.
06-30-2017, 08:24 AM
Visions of Khas
Re: What Are You Reading?
Apps like Tinder and OKC turn individuals into easily replaceable products. Everyone is window shopping, looking to satisfy that craving for the flavor of the week. Single-serving friends and all that.
06-30-2017, 08:26 AM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
Which is why I prefer in person communication. I'm too lazy to think of some bullshit she's never heard before based on two sentences in her profile. I'd rather just run up on her and flash the time-honored objects collectively known as pussy magnets which somehow shows her I'm not some broke ass loser. I kid, I'm actually a nice guy, after I go through the routine of making her think I'm not a nice guy but then wanting me to be a nice guy.
06-30-2017, 07:54 PM
sandwich_bird
Re: What Are You Reading?
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So, I tried out Tinder a while ago so I guess I've been reading bullshit. Worked decently for the most part (although the average Tinder girl is fucking dumb) but I had this one strange conversation that went something like this:
[lots of texting with obvious sexual tension and chemistry]
Girl: You aren't Republican, are you?
Me: No, I'm libertarian.
Girl: Where do you stand on [insert bullshit issues]
Me: Libertarians are socially liberally, economically conservative.
Girl: So you're right-wing?
Me: Only on Economics, but I'm not really rig--
Girl: I can't date someone right-wing.
Me: You see, I'm an Economist so my opinion is informed by--
Girl: I don't care. Bye.
Me: ... Bitch, you have three kids, you're 24, with no skills, and divorced. You can't be picky.
I'm not a dick though so I didn't say the last thing, of course.
Also, while I'm on this bullshit subject, most of the other Tinder conversations basically went like this:
Girl: You're not looking for sex/an asshole/rapist/abuser/etc
Me: No, I'm a nice guy.
Girl: Ewwww, I don't like nice guys.
Me: Bitch, I'll fuck you in the ass right now and I won't even ask you permission.
Girl: All guys are the same! Asshole! ... But I want to talk to you more now [insert flirty emoji of choice]
Me: If I promise to cry and snuggle afterwards, can I get up in them guts?
Girl: Okay, but we have to talk about my kids first and how bad their daddy is and how much not like him you are.
Oh well, back to picking up chicks walking around campus (but far from the Humanities building). Damn, I miss when intelligent, put-together women were around me constantly. Why did I waste time actually studying?
l.o.l.
You're back in school? Thought you were done. Either way, VoK nailed it. Tinder and etc are a great idea but in practice it just doesn't work because of the catalog effect. For dudes it's even worst because of supply/demand favoring girls. Just join social clubs and go to meetup groups. That's where you find good women or at least expend your social circle enough to then reach more potential catches.
06-30-2017, 07:59 PM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
One does not need to be in college to pick up chicks on campus, since pretty much every club is on the campus. Plus, like you said, 'social clubs' :D The campus I'm referring to isn't the campus I took classes at though, in it is literally across the United States.
I only tried Tinder to say I actually did. Been watching some funny vids of Tinder experiences and wanted to fuck with it. Not even I am man-whorish enough to come close to that place anymore.
Think I might try Plenty of Fish soon though, 'cus, you know ... new things
06-30-2017, 08:27 PM
sandwich_bird
Re: What Are You Reading?
I tried pof and OkCupid years back when I was single; was better than tinder imo. You can somewhat accurately judge the intelligence of your matches by the number of words they have on their profile :D But the supply/demand is still unfavorable; probably worse actually. The moment a women open an account on pof, she receives at least 5 dick pic, and then it's 10 daily. Those are filtered out on tinder. But, at least you can have more elaborate profiles.
06-30-2017, 08:41 PM
Visions of Khas
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Think I might try Plenty of Fish soon though, 'cus, you know ... new things
Getting your funk on. Got it.
07-01-2017, 07:26 AM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
Well, I have to adjust to not having easing access to women so I'm just trying things out. I don't expect much, but, you know, man's gotta hunt.
I will say though, this experience has made me want to statistically analyze the fuck out of just how much worse it is for guys on these sites, lol.
That's true about the dick picks, I spent ten minutes on POF and pretty much every other profile was "stop sending me dick pics" or a long list of unreasonable criteria you must meet before she will even talk to you. I haven't checked any male profiles but I'm guessing they're pretty simple and rarely say anything besides "please don't be crazy".
I guess I'll check back in in a couple of days/weeks to complain here about how annoying the whole thing was.
Also, I happened to google pickup lines from movies for use in Tinder (because fuck it) and I can't believe I missed the perfect response to the above:
"How would you like to have a sexual experience so intense it could conceivably change your political views?" - John Cusack, The Sure Thing
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Getting your funk on. Got it.
Not sure I understand.
07-02-2017, 05:56 PM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
So, I was working on creating a profile for plenty of fish and I accidentally put myself as 'Woman' seeking 'Man'. I created a profile, had no picture or text, took a break, went to the gym to think about what to say, came back.. Holy Fuck .. Over 99 views (I assume the max counted) and over 8 messages (which quickly became 18). We're talking a 45-60 minute span of time here. It's died down a bit since the first two hours, but, still.. Jesus Christ ..
Fuck this shit, I'm not even going to waste my time. I don't care who you are, you can't compete with this shit.
07-02-2017, 06:01 PM
Gradius
Re: What Are You Reading?
Go back to picking up chicks on campus. You're not going to find the hottest or smartest girls online. I mean, you can, but it's an uphill battle. If you're looking for an easy lay though, nothing beats copy/pasting messages online on your phone and playing the numbers game while you otherwise sit on your ass or waste time at your job. ;)
07-02-2017, 06:09 PM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
I will never, ever try to pick up a chick online again. Never. I could bag a dozen girls in the time it would take for me to get a single message back. This empty, pictureless profile got more hits in an hour than I got on Tinder in three weeks, never mind first messages.
Its quite humbling that this profile got more when, I'm a pretty handsome guy (or at least I thought) been working out at the gym every day since I was 14, I had lots of fun pictures at the beach, on jetskis, in some bars, I talked about my real estate business, I wrote nice sincere messages relevant to her profile, etc. I got next to nothing of any real value, 7/10 chicks with three kids looking for sugar daddy's. That's about it.
But, this damn profiles getting blown up. I've been keeping to active for about five hours now out of lulz, but now I'm just going to delete it because its blowing up my phone.
Always carried myself with confidence and swagger ... but now my balls are shriveled up like raisins ..
Just kidding .. Get money ... Fuck them bitches ...
-- I have officially closed the account. It was active for about five hours (during peak working hours, does anyone work anymore?) and I received at least 300 views and 31 messages. I can't even begin to imagine what a pretty girl gets over the course of a subscription period.
07-03-2017, 04:18 PM
sandwich_bird
Re: What Are You Reading?
lol idk if it's just the North American culture but the number of thirsty dudes is staggering. It's worse online but in real life, girls get hunted like crazy as well. I feel bad for some of my friends that are singles and not really on top of their game(a bit chubby, salary between 35-50k, etc). In a world where the competition wouldn't be so aggressive, I'm sure they could get someone because they really don't look all that bad and they are great guys. But the culture right now pretty much assure that they'll be single forever unless they want to go out with psychotic single moms with 4 kids from different fathers that look like this.
07-03-2017, 05:04 PM
Gradius
Re: What Are You Reading?
Yeah, unless they step up their game they're going to have to end up taking a fatty lol.
07-03-2017, 06:55 PM
Visions of Khas
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lol idk if it's just the North American culture but the number of thirsty dudes is staggering.
Haha it's on both sides.
I feel a lot of it again has to do with the capitalistic spin on dating. People are always looking to upgrade, upgrade, upgrade. I've heard that effective marketing takes up to 3/4 your gross revenue, and people are following this formula. As a result, while the product looks good, the craftsmanship and quality are poor upon closer inspection. It doesn't help that straight-forwardness is shunned -- you're not dating, you're just "hanging out" -- so stability and mutual understanding are fleeting.
Part of it is the technological age, and I'm sure part of it is many millennials looking at how cranky and dissatisfied their parents are even after they found "The One." TM
07-03-2017, 07:55 PM
Gradius
Re: What Are You Reading?
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Haha it's on both sides.
I feel a lot of it again has to do with the capitalistic spin on dating. People are always looking to upgrade, upgrade, upgrade. I've heard that effective marketing takes up to 3/4 your gross revenue, and people are following this formula. As a result, while the product looks good, the craftsmanship and quality are poor upon closer inspection. It doesn't help that straight-forwardness is shunned -- you're not dating, you're just "hanging out" -- so stability and mutual understanding are fleeting.
Part of it is the technological age, and I'm sure part of it is many millennials looking at how cranky and dissatisfied their parents are even after they found "The One." TM
If people do settle down, they want somebody they feel like they shouldn't deserve. Every average guy wants to date a 10 and vice-versa.
07-03-2017, 08:00 PM
Nissa
Re: What Are You Reading?
This got deep, real fast.
...I'm trying to think of a clever comment to say from the female perspective, but uh, I got nothin'. But yes, a lack of straightforwardness is a problem. If a guy would just say, "hey, I think you're interesting, wanna go for coffee later?" then that would strip away a lot of problems right there. Instead, guys try and be "cute." Like the time some guy just walked up and asked me to guess where he was from. Though I suppose it was pretty straightforward the time the guy walked up to me and said, "Do you like to drink?" without even asking my name.
07-03-2017, 10:39 PM
TheEconomist
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If a guy would just say, "hey, I think you're interesting, wanna go for coffee later?" then that would strip away a lot of problems right there.
I have said this damn near verbatim about 200 times. it didn't work half as well as some dumb ass shit I came up with in the three seconds I looked at her profile. I can't tell you how many one-liner jokes I've made about something on her profile just to show I'm funny and witty. Also, pretty much every article I read on the subject says the exact opposite. Every guy says that, so you have to stand-out with something else. My quick perusal of the messages to my empty profile attest to this.
I think this might be another case of 'never ask a deer how she wants to be hunted' but, alright, Nissa. You're the only female perspective I've got.
Because I got nothing worthwhile on Tinder with this along with a bunch of pictures of doing fun things like jet skiing, surfing, rock climbing, etc. I even had pictures of me with my niece and nephew at a fair for fuck sake.
Key word is worth while, I had no problem getting trashy or ugly chicks. I realize that I'm coming off as incredibly douchey in this topic, but that's because of the context of this forum and my attempt to bring humor to this. I've been in mulitple one-year plus relationships with classy intelligent businesswomen, I'm not an asshole and I know how to treat a lady with respect and I let that convey in my messages and profile. I've also bagged should-be models off Miami Beach for years. Still nothing ...
But that's Tinder ...
In real life, douchebaggery works much better and I will never be pimped!!! Play on playa
And, since you're bringing capitalism into it, if anything the market value of women has decreased because the market is flooded with cheap substitutes (more slutty chicks). The market is over-saturated and differentiation costs are staggering.
07-03-2017, 11:35 PM
sandwich_bird
Re: What Are You Reading?
Not a girl but you're looking good dude. Assuming this is the first picture that women see, I think the problem is that the picture gives a douchey vibe and looks staged. You're taking a selfie in your brand new ride with a dress shirt. You might have more success in a plainer setting(outdoor evening or w/e) and with more casual clothes. Also, probably better to not have a top down selfie angle but straight ahead instead (but not looking directly at camera). I could give some reasoning behind this but it's all very unscientific and post-fact so..
07-03-2017, 11:41 PM
TheEconomist
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Well, damn, thanks for the help brother!
Like I said, I had all kinds of pictures, that's the only 'staged' one I had. But I definitely understand the douche vibe (I put the picture on Photofeeler) but within the overall context of all my pictures, I think it's offset with, say, me on a jet ski or with my niece/nephew.
I'll get the pictures off my tablet later and post.
But, yeah, go ahead and shred me to pieces, Nissa. I've been a dick to you on a few occasions so here's your chance to get back me and actually do me some good.
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Also, probably better to not have a top down selfie angle but straight ahead instead (but not looking directly at camera).
There is a picture limit of 6 and I wanted to use action shots. I had one picture that I briefly thought about using but girls on Photofeeler said it looked feminine so I never used it, lol. It was me hiking in the mountains of Tennessee a few years back. Maybe I need to whip out my softer pictures to offset ... whatever
What do you think Nissa? Weak, effeminate in an endearing, boyfriend material kind of way or in a childish, grow-the-hell-up kind of way.
Also, the ride isn't new, it's 3 years old. I just take care of my shit :D
07-04-2017, 04:52 AM
Visions of Khas
Re: What Are You Reading?
... Wow.
Anyways. Psych studies show women are more attracted to men who aren't looking directly at them, are engaged with doing something, and are among friends. And smile; the appeal of the brooding look is temporary, while a smile signals openness and hence longer term stability in relationships.
07-04-2017, 07:19 AM
TheEconomist
Re: What Are You Reading?
Yeah, my direct eye contact shots always look somewhat intimidating, even to me.
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... Wow.
... What?
07-04-2017, 10:21 AM
Gradius
Re: What Are You Reading?
I think I've done well online, so here's some of my advice, which, honestly, might be more work than it's worth.
1) Get rid of all selfies. The implication with selfies is that you don't have one friend to take a picture for you, and then when you combine it with a brooding picture it looks like you're sad about your lack of friend. Even just using the timer function on your phone is fine.
2) Use a DSLR. It's stupid, but people associate high quality pictures with high quality people aka models/celebs from magazines.
3) You're a good looking dude but you should get low body fat percentage and become shredded. If you can get cheek hollows, sharp jawline, etc, you will slay.
4) It's all about the pictures. Your main one should be a clear shot of your face, looking away from the camera (that's what all top profiles have in common), none of that far away bullshit where you're an ant in the photo. Then you need a shot that shows you're a social guy, some of you doing sweet hobbies and maybe one (tasteful) body shot. Then you have one with a niece/nephew? Maybe get rid of it. Girls have no clue whose kids those are. But really it's all about the first picture. You want to make sure that one is perfect.
5) On Tinder the description literally doesn't matter. Some stupid one-liner will do fine. On dating sites like okcupid you might want to actually fill it out and give more of a description of what it's like to hang out with you.
6) If you live in a big city, paying for the boost feature isn't the worst idea. Puts you at the top of the swiping list.
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And smile; the appeal of the brooding look is temporary, while a smile signals openness and hence longer term stability in relationships.
Even though that's true, I wouldn't use a smiling pic as the main one. Most of the top tinder guys have a brooding pic as their main.
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This got deep, real fast.
...I'm trying to think of a clever comment to say from the female perspective, but uh, I got nothin'. But yes, a lack of straightforwardness is a problem. If a guy would just say, "hey, I think you're interesting, wanna go for coffee later?" then that would strip away a lot of problems right there. Instead, guys try and be "cute." Like the time some guy just walked up and asked me to guess where he was from. Though I suppose it was pretty straightforward the time the guy walked up to me and said, "Do you like to drink?" without even asking my name.
Then how come when I open with "hey, want to bang in my car?" it never goes over well? :(
But in all seriousness I think what you mean is being clear in your intent to date/bang right off the bat, since that eliminates creepiness. Asking them out before ever talking to them though? Bad idea.
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I've also bagged should-be models off Miami Beach for years.
You lucky bastard. I spent 3 months there and lived like a god. Now I'm back in Ohio in short fat girl land. :[
Do you still live there?
07-04-2017, 10:41 AM
Visions of Khas
Re: What Are You Reading?
I don't know why, but for some reason I thought you were a family man, Grad.
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... Wow.
... What?
I'm being an asshole. But then I thought to myself, "We all go through this relationship shit," and decided to stop.
So, some genuine advice on top of Grad's suggestions: your hair in your car photo looks unwashed. I'd recommend a volumizer (yeah, I know, "But muh testosterone!"), or try something different with it altogether. Have you ever styled it? Ask your female friends, or head to a stylist and ask their advice. (I know stylists get bored with their day-to-day; asking advice -- asking someone to talk-- endears them to you. They went into the business to do more than cut hair, so use that resource.)
Also, post yourself doing something you enjoy. Like men, women want to see that you have a life outside Tinder. Don't just cater to the camera; include something you're passionate about. If it's real-estate, then prop your legs up on a desk with books 'n shit, looking care-free. Like hiking? Photo that shit. Like animals? Get some puppy pics -- women melt over dogs. You're more than a face, Econ. You are a human being with aspirations and pleasures. Share them, and you'll have more like-minded chicks checking you out. They sure as hell filter out guys, so filter them in turn.
07-04-2017, 10:47 AM
Gradius
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I don't know why, but for some reason I thought you were a family man, Grad.
Pfffft, no way. There's a better life out there. :P
07-04-2017, 11:18 AM
TheEconomist
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You're a good looking dude but you should get low body fat percentage and become shredded.
I have the lowest BMI I know of anyone with my muscle size :D
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Girls have no clue whose kids those are.
The caption, which is almost as big as picture, says they are my niece/nephew. Also, stats mining suggests pictures with kids and animals is a big plus.
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I'm being an asshole. But then I thought to myself, "We all go through this relationship shit," and decided to stop.
I'm not going through relationship shit. I'm making a joke about Tinder. I sound hurt or upset but I'm not, just trying to bring humor to this.
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So, some genuine advice on top of Grad's suggestions: your hair in your car photo looks unwashed
I guess the mixture of high temperatures, sweatiness and the angle might give that impression. I never noticed it before. I also usually have shorter hair, so I ain't use to fuckin' with it.
And, no, I will never use a volumizer. I should dick slap you for even suggesting it. Again, I tell you: this is a Tinder only problem (in 3 weeks) not a real life problem.
Maybe I'll redo it though when its not so damn hot.
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If you can get cheek hollows, sharp jawline, etc, you will slay.
I have all of that :D
Here's a fucking-around selfie I did at the same time and didn't use for my profile, because I don't really even know why I was tilted that way lol
I'll see if I can get a decent squared up, face first selfie just for these purposes (not profile). It's hard to do with my tablet, and, again, my phone has shitty quality. Maybe I should get a DSLR.
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Also, post yourself doing something you enjoy.
Again, I did. Lots of action shots, jet skis, blah blah. I'm just too lazy to find a way to snippet it off my Tinder app since I don't have digital PC copies, only cloud app versions in dating sites, and tablets are remarkably featureless when it comes to basic PC operations. I don't even think Tinder has a Windows app.
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But in all seriousness I think what you mean is being clear in your intent to date/bang right off the bat, since that eliminates creepiness.
Preeeaacchh!!!
I learned young that honest was the key. Whether it's "I'll fuck you right now" or "I actually genuinely want to to get to know," honesty is always the best course of action. The aggressive approach will only work on some and the nice way will only work on some, but the dishonest approach won't work on any girls I want to talk to.
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Pfffft, no way. There's a better life out there. :P
Play on playa
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You lucky bastard. I spent 3 months there and lived like a god. Now I'm back in Ohio in short fat girl land. :[
Nope, in Tennessee right now, running my business empire. I cannot fucking believe we didn't meet up with each other when you were here. It would have been...
I'm glad that most of us have posted pictures here; and I can say I find most of you visually attractive (full homo).
Eco you look very similar to Freespace back in the day! (Quite similar glare)
Selfies in general are a no no. Even having a stranger take you a scenic picture gives up better results IMO.
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jet skis
I think this is what they meant by staged pictures. :D
Anyway, I am Mexican can you guys plz explain more about US date culture? We kind of live with our parents till 35. It's way worse at my city which is better described as a 5M people ranch with conservative views on anything. Example, a friend's girlfriend was cutout from her family for a year for living together with him before marriage. As well, Korean people started to immigrate due to KIA's opening of a factory in Mexico, and I find it amusing how local women stare at Koreans at the market like they have never seen any other Asian in their lives.
So we are all in our 20s?
07-04-2017, 02:19 PM
TheEconomist
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I think this is what they meant by staged pictures.
There couldn't possibly be any less of a staged picture. It was taken by my dad while I was jumping waves on the beach.
Plus. it's all about competition. You can say selfies are a no-no all yo want but 99% of guys in my area have one selfie picture and that's it. Therefore, I win by default of having something different.
Women can be as picky and indecisive as they want, but, eventually, market forces win over, as always.
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Anyway, I am Mexican can you guys plz explain more about US date culture?
I wouldn't describe what Gradius and I are doing as being standard. Most guys don't have the balls to approach a woman, much less however many we do. One must give zero fucks to do this shit and not want to blow your brains out after a few rejections.
But, to answer your question, I really don't know how to explain it. Watch a teen drama. If you ask specifics questions, maybe I can help.
07-04-2017, 03:05 PM
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So, I decided to try POF. Seems to be alright, got a lot of likes, lots of messages so far. Most seem legit. No confirmed dates yet, but I'm working on some potential ones. But, there's been some obviously shady shit. Here's one I decided to play around with because this wasn't even subtle in the least, haha. Here it is for your lulz.
Now, I don't know for a fact that she was a prostitute ... but she was a prostitute :D Tried to thirst trap me with some 'lewd' pictures, haha.
So far, POF is pretty much Tinder, haha.
I've gotten some better messages though. Again, just posting for the lulz.
Numbers legit though. I ran a reverse lookup on it. Some girl name Heather owns it. Not that that means anything. Word of warning though: do not call that number.
07-04-2017, 06:28 PM
sandwich_bird
Re: What Are You Reading?
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There is a picture limit of 6 and I wanted to use action shots. I had one picture that I briefly thought about using but girls on Photofeeler said it looked feminine so I never used it, lol.
Feminine wasn't the first thing that came to mind but now that you mention it, I see a bit of this in there XD Regardless, that picture is not flattering imo. Other ones are 10x better. Better resolution helps.
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Anyway, I am Mexican can you guys plz explain more about US date culture? We kind of live with our parents till 35. It's way worse at my city which is better described as a 5M people ranch with conservative views on anything. Example, a friend's girlfriend was cutout from her family for a year for living together with him before marriage. As well, Korean people started to immigrate due to KIA's opening of a factory in Mexico, and I find it amusing how local women stare at Koreans at the market like they have never seen any other Asian in their lives.
I'm Canadian but I imagine the scene is almost the same as in the US and by the same I mean it's super diversified :p Obviously things are different based on age, ethnicity, social background and etc but if I had to describe the average date culture of European descent then it would sound like this:
The average single person wants a relationship but is lazy about trying to get one. Women are usually much worse in that regard on average. Part of the reason is a very biased vision of reality constructed by Hollywood and pop culture. So, usually people end up dating by coincidence rather than complicated courtship but the motion is usually initiated by the guy regardless. Basically, a single guy and a single girl take the same class, work at the same place, hang with the same friends or whatever. Then the guy makes some subtle move and if he can indirectly convince the girl that he's worth a try even if he's not *insert hot guy name* then a relation will develop. These days people usually reject conservative values so they'll probably have sex and start living together soon enough. Then, after ~1-3 years, their brains switch chemicals and most relation usually break at that point because the average person lives on emotion. They don't commit 100% to a relationship and can't fathom the fact that you can't love someone 100% all the time so the breakups are inevitable. So, the cycle is renewed with new partners until they reach a certain age where they are expected to start a family or convince themselves that they need one. At that point, they get passed the 1-3 years chemical shift because kids are forcing them to stick together(most of the time at least...).
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idk if she's a prostitute but she sounds like one dumb b
07-04-2017, 06:55 PM
Visions of Khas
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The average single person wants a relationship but is lazy about trying to get one. Women are usually much worse in that regard on average. Part of the reason is a very biased vision of reality constructed by Hollywood and pop culture.
It's called dyadic power. Socio-economic conditions can see the power shift, but at least in America it's in the hands of women because they're the "prize," so they can lay down the ground rules.
Sorry for all the psycho-analysis stuff, but I find the psychology extremely interesting.
07-04-2017, 07:29 PM
sandwich_bird
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It's called dyadic power. Socio-economic conditions can see the power shift, but at least in America it's in the hands of women because they're the "prize," so they can lay down the ground rules.
Sorry for all the psycho-analysis stuff, but I find the psychology extremely interesting.
Aye, no worries. I didn't know there was a term for it. It is interesting to see how the power is assigned in the absence of necessities.
07-04-2017, 08:43 PM
TheEconomist
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Feminine wasn't the first thing that came to mind but now that you mention it, I see a bit of this in there XD Regardless, that picture is not flattering imo. Other ones are 10x better. Better resolution helps.
Hey, we're dudes. Of course it doesn't appeal to us. But, that effeminate shit works .. sometimes. Either way, it was a bullshit selfie I did up in the mountains while it was raining. Never expected to see it again.
Only brought it up because, apparently, I need to counter the pure, raw animal magnetism of my main photo.
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Then, after ~1-3 years, their brains switch chemicals and most relation usually break at that point because the average person lives on emotion.
I heard a theory in a psychology class that male brains produce oxytocin on 6 month intervals, to aign with hunting seasons. Women are on 7-year cycles to align with something related to children. And that that was why men go cold frequently but come back while women have drastic changes in perception of their partner at a certain crucial point.
.. or maybe I'm misremembering ... I had a shit psychology teacher so most of it was mumbo-jumbo about conflict theory.
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idk if she's a prostitute but she sounds like one dumb b
I've had plenty of dumb bitches just like that, but this is the only way that kept telling me about something important she needed to discuss that couldn't be said over texts.
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Also, post yourself doing something you enjoy. Like men, women want to see that you have a life outside Tinder. Don't just cater to the camera; include something you're passionate about. If it's real-estate, then prop your legs up on a desk with books 'n shit, looking care-free. Like hiking? Photo that shit. Like animals? Get some puppy pics -- women melt over dogs. You're more than a face, Econ. You are a human being with aspirations and pleasures. Share them, and you'll have more like-minded chicks checking you out. They sure as hell filter out guys, so filter them in turn.
So, I actually just read this. Actually some decent advice here. The legs up, desk thing might be worth looking into. So thanks bro!
-- So, I've been texting this girl all night. Now, she wants to watch a TV show together over the phone. Just met her six hours ago. GIRL, I GOTTA WORK IN THE MORNIN'! ... but, damn she fine so I'll talk to her sweet ass.
-- We watched Fast and Furious until I fell asleep. Then she woke up and told me she wanted to come over. Just got done smashing. Posting this at 2 AM just to fucking say that. The king is back.
Yeah, that's right. I just announced my exploits on SCLegacy. This forums needs new guidelines just for that now ... but it will never be the same.
07-05-2017, 01:14 AM
The_Blade
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-- So, I've been texting this girl all night. Now, she wants to watch a TV show together over the phone. Just met her six hours ago. GIRL, I GOTTA WORK IN THE MORNIN'! ... but, damn she fine so I'll talk to her sweet ass.
-- We watched Fast and Furious until I fell asleep. Then she woke up and told me she wanted to come over. Just got done smashing. Posting this at 2 AM just to fucking say that. The king is back.
Yeah, that's right. I just announced my exploits on SCLegacy. This forums needs new guidelines just for that now ... but it will never be the same.
Well, good to know you enjoyed the night. Oh, the wonders of technology.
Damn, I love that calls are mostly free in my country, otherwise I would get bills for lengthy 1-2 hour calls every two days with the GF.
We've always been the coolest SC circlejerk out there. Now you just added some spice to it all.
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I'm Canadian but I imagine the scene is almost the same as in the US and by the same I mean it's super diversified :p Obviously things are different based on age, ethnicity, social background and etc but if I had to describe the average date culture of European descent then it would sound like this:
The average single person wants a relationship but is lazy about trying to get one. Women are usually much worse in that regard on average. Part of the reason is a very biased vision of reality constructed by Hollywood and pop culture. So, usually people end up dating by coincidence rather than complicated courtship but the motion is usually initiated by the guy regardless. Basically, a single guy and a single girl take the same class, work at the same place, hang with the same friends or whatever. Then the guy makes some subtle move and if he can indirectly convince the girl that he's worth a try even if he's not *insert hot guy name* then a relation will develop. These days people usually reject conservative values so they'll probably have sex and start living together soon enough. Then, after ~1-3 years, their brains switch chemicals and most relation usually break at that point because the average person lives on emotion. They don't commit 100% to a relationship and can't fathom the fact that you can't love someone 100% all the time so the breakups are inevitable. So, the cycle is renewed with new partners until they reach a certain age where they are expected to start a family or convince themselves that they need one. At that point, they get passed the 1-3 years chemical shift because kids are forcing them to stick together(most of the time at least...).
Thanks for the bits of info. It's not very different from Mexico then. We just fall into more conservative prejudice, but people still want to get out of that. However, couples think that getting married will solve their relationship for them. Oh boy, do we get divorces.
07-05-2017, 06:37 AM
TheEconomist
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Shout out to all of the women that let me put my penis inside of her.
So, I fucked up my the description last night.
Here's what's happened:
1) Chattered her up a bit on POF from around 1:00 to 3:00
2) Started texting her from 7:00 to 9:00
3) We started talking because she thought I was a fake (whatever that means)
4) We talked and watched some TV over the phone (American Gods)
5) She mentioned she was a huge Fast and Furious fan so we watched Furious 8, over the phone ... we also Snapchatted a little bit
6) It got late, and I work early, so I feel the fuck asleep .. I guess around 12:00
7) About an hour later, she woke me up and told me she wanted to come over.
8) ...
9) Profit!!! (I was pokin' her kydneys)
And that's how the fuck its done boys, from first contact POF message to my house in just under twelve hours.
Also, the girl I posted texts of earlier, who I thought was a prostitute, messaged me late light again, with more pictures, and her Facebook, Kik, and Snapchat. Seems more legit now, I'll see if I can slide up in there too.
-- Nevermind, fuck that baby poppin' bitch, me and Natasha are going to a bonfire on Saturday (because apparently bonfires are the block parties of country Tennessee)
I'm also learning that the best time to slide up in her DMs is around 11:00, same chick that is cold during the day, is down af come night time. Shoot her a message in the early afternoon, after she responds, wait until late at night, build that anticipation, and then slay
It's called dyadic power. Socio-economic conditions can see the power shift, but at least in America it's in the hands of women because they're the "prize," so they can lay down the ground rules.
Sorry for all the psycho-analysis stuff, but I find the psychology extremely interesting.
I actually disagree. Men pretty clearly have the advantage over women in dating. Culturally (or psychologically, could be either) they are expected to initiate, which means they get to initiate. Women have to wait for someone to notice them. Not to mention that women are more physically attractive at younger ages, meaning they lose beauty over time. Men, on the other hand, can become distinguished and handsome as they age. A good example of this is John Romero, who went from alright guy with woman's hair in the nineties, to adorable and stylish today. Seriously, he's hot. Not to mention that since men can't have children, they are able to hold jobs for longer periods of time, and thus gain more experience and have more net worth as they age.
Sure, women set the rules, but we've always done that.
